Ever wished you could last longer in bed?
No man wants to be a selfish lover, but staying the course until your partner hits the finish line can be an uphill battle.
We can thank biology for this unfortunate cum-nundrum. Being able to ejaculate (and impregnate) a mate as quickly as possible is embedded in a male’s innate physiology. In prehistoric times, threats to finishing the deed lurked around every corner — whether it was a snarling beast, or a rival suitor with a club in his hand.
Sadly, being speedy in the sack isn’t much use in today’s world, especially when it comes to satisfying your sexual partner.
How long should sex last?
The average lovemaking session isn’t as long as you might think. One study found that the majority of men lasted between four to 11 minutes from start to finish.
But premature ejaculation (climaxing within one minute of penetration) isn’t as uncommon as you might think, either. As many as one in three men report having experienced this embarrassing condition at one time or another.
The joys of Lasting Longer In Bed
There’s a time and a place for quickies and knee-tremblers, but leisurely lovemaking sessions that bring you and your partner to the brink and back (otherwise known as “edging” or “tantric sex”) can lead to incredibly intense orgasms for both of you. Sex is much hotter when both partners are equally satisfied.
The key to making sex a marathon and not a sprint is to avoid highly-stimulating positions that will race you straight to the finish line. Keep penetration as shallow as possible, and limit the vigorous thrusts that send you over the edge too soon.
Save the best for last
Having sex in the doggy-style position stimulates the super-sensitive underside of the penis with every deep thrust, leading to a powerful — but lightning fast — finish. For that reason it’s probably the worst position to start with, but it makes for an explosive grand finale.
On that note, here are six sex positions that will set you off on a strong start so you can last longer in bed.
1. Woman on top (forward-facing cowgirl)
If you always end up on top, let your riding partner take the reins and ride you for a change. When she sets the pace, that slows things down and takes the pressure off you for a bit.
How to do it: Lie flat on your back with a pillow under your head, and have her straddle you with both legs on either side of your body. After she eases you inside of her, let her ride you till the cows come home.
Warning: the view is hot (especially as she’s getting right into it) and the penetration is deep, so the urge to pop your pistol can sneak up on you. If you feel yourself getting too close, have her lean forward. The shallower angle will slow down the action.
2. The Cross
Believe it or not, having your bodies make the shape of letter “X” together is not as acrobatic as it sounds. This sexy position lets you penetrate her deeply, but it also limits your thrusting power so you can’t get too carried away. As a bonus for her, it allows easy access to her clitoris, either with fingers or a vibrator.
How to do it: Lie on your side, facing your partner, while she lies on her back. Have her drape both legs over your pelvis, perpendicular to your body, as she pushes your penis inside of her.
3. The Seated Lotus
Designed for true lovers, this incredibly intimate face-to-face position allows for plenty of makeout breaks if things get too heated.
How to do it: Sit with your legs crossed, as your partner lowers herself into your lap and over your penis. Have her wrap her legs around your back, and her arms around your neck to steady herself as she gyrates her hips in circles or grinds against you. Synchronise your movements to hers to intensify her pleasure.
This position creates a slow build-up that will give her plenty of time to get her rocks off, minus any thrusting.
This position is just like spooning in bed as you’re falling asleep together, only sexier. It ensures shallow entry and limits movement to avoid overstimulation, while allowing ample opportunity to fondle her breasts and other erogenous zones for her pleasure.
How to do it: Lie down and slightly below behind your partner, like a pair of spoons facing the same direction, and cosy up to one another as she lifts her leg slightly and guides you inside of herself from behind.
5. The Throne
Similar to forward-facing cowgirl, chair sex gives your partner total control and lets her to set the pace for both of you. Plus, it’s raunchily reminiscent of a lap dance.
How to do it: Sit down in a sturdy but comfortable chair with a wide enough seat so she can straddle and ride you in a kneeling position. Then, take turns and treat her like a queen for a while. Switch places, and let her take the throne as you kneel before her to give her the royal treatment with your tongue.
6. Downward-facing Doggy Style
Doggy-style is dangerous if you’re hoping to delay ejaculation, but that doesn’t mean you have to miss out on the naughty thrill of sex from behind altogether. This modified rear entry position reduces the intense penile stimulation from the OG version, while still hitting her G-spot enough to help her reach the big O.
How to do it: Start off in regular doggy-style, with your partner on all fours and you kneeling behind, then slowly lower yourselves down to the bed until she’s lying flat on her stomach. Prop yourself up a bit, with your hands and knees straddling her body, and start thrusting and grinding. She’ll be howling in no time.