Last Updated on 21st January 2025 by Charlie Walsh
Whether it’s due to stress at work, concern about someone you know or just the pressure of performing, sexual performance anxiety can kill the mood just as it’s getting started.
Let’s face it, when things start getting hot and heavy in the bedroom, one of the worst interruptions to experience is not being able to rise to the occasion.
Understanding Performance Anxiety (It’s More Than Stage Fright)
With the amount of pressure put on how well we perform in the bedroom, it’s no surprise that men all over the world are experiencing sexual performance anxiety.
Erectile dysfunction as a result of performance anxiety
The inability to obtain or maintain an erection as a result of self-doubt is a dangerous cycle of concern that needs to be broken in order to regain your sexual ability.
Performance anxiety is just that, worry that you either won’t be able to become aroused enough to perform or that something will happen to ruin the experience.
Even external concerns that aren’t sexual in nature can creep their way into your mind while you should be focused on other things.
Worrying About Performance Is Counterintuitive
The age-old advice of “don’t get in your own head” holds true even in the bedroom.
Actually, ESPECIALLY in the bedroom.
The moment you start to worry about how your sexual escapade is going to go is the moment that it turns into an awkward back-and-forth of apologies and comforting notions that it’s ok, and it is!
The times that you find yourself squandering an hour of foreplay due to invasive thoughts is a psychological force behind erectile dysfunction, and it can be reversed with the right help so don’t lose hope.
One of the best options to help stave off performance anxiety is by changing your perception of yourself, both in and out of the bedroom.
Poor self-confidence is one of the most common drivers behind these performance issues.
If you’re spending too much time worrying about if you’ll do well enough, then you typically won’t.
Concerns about your looks also need to be left at the door. When we find someone to engage in intercourse with, it’s on a consensual basis which means they want to as well.
The members of your party on the next sexual adventure are there to be there with you, looks and all.
Build Your Self-Confidence, Build Your Performance
When you’re confident and comfortable with who you are and the fact that there are indeed others out there who want to meet you between the sheets, a large portion of performance anxiety will melt away and psychologically-driven ED will follow.
Being able to focus on the task at hand without the added worry of how things will go will lead to more enjoyment and less tense moments following a mental tap out.
If you’re suffering from body image issues, taking steps to become comfortable with yourself should be at the top of your list.
Exercise can help with worries about weight or fitness levels, but that won’t cover everything.
For times when you may not like the way you look, it’s important to remember that your looks are only a small portion of who you are.
There are definitely times when a sexual partner is chosen on looks alone, but if that isn’t who you are then you’ll gravitate towards similar personalities.
These similar mindsets will match better with the thought of just having a good time during sex and not treating it like a social ritual or point of triumph.
When Anxieties Seem Out Of Your Hands
The many different anxieties that can pull the support out from under your tent are, at times, easy to spot and tackle such as through working out or getting the right haircut.
For self-critical thoughts about who you are, how well you can perform in bed or even how long you can perform, there are still options to help reverse the years of you telling yourself you aren’t good enough.
Taking the opportunity to indulge in hobbies and friends, sexual or otherwise, can help you find what you’re all about in life.
Once you do this, you can often feel more confident because you’ve done something you enjoy with your time which takes the pressure off of how well the sexier times of your day end up going.
If you’ve turned every stone in your mind and burned every bridge connecting negative thoughts to your performance, it may be time to get a helping hand – and not the one you may have just thought of.
Tackling Performance Anxiety With Penis Pumps and Testosterone
The psychological benefits of using a penis pump should never be underestimated.
By creating a vacuum around the penis, the pump draws in blood, quickly giving the user an erection regardless of any natural inability to do so.
What better confidence boost is there than fully realizing the penis potential hiding behind stress and worry?
The undoubted feeling of relief at seeing your flag at full mast should be the boost you need to tackle your performance anxiety issues head on!
For those of us that need more than a kickstart to keep the engine revving, it could be time to give your testosterone levels a boost.
By introducing foods to your diet that naturally boost your body’s T-levels, not only is it possible to increase libido but also drive more confidence overall, giving you a one-two knockout to kick your performance anxiety to the curb.
Now You Know What To Do, Do It!
Go on that first run to achieve your fitness goals.
Change your diet to start working on weight loss.
Pick up that hobby you’ve been thinking about for years.
If none of that works, throw down the gloves and pick up a penis pump to put your worries to rest.
Top it off with a natural testosterone boost and you’ll find that sex is fun again now that you are doing less thinking and more, doing.
Don’t let performance anxiety stop you from letting the juices flow.
