Last Updated on 17th January 2022 by Charlie Walsh
What is Pegging?
The act of pegging takes place when a female puts on a strap on harness with an attached dildo and uses it to penetrate her partner anally. This is sometimes known as female to male sex. For men, this stimulates the highly pleasurable prostate gland. The prostate is a difficult to reach area for men during masturbation, but stimulation of the P Spot can create the most powerful orgasm that a man experiences. For women, this type of sex bucks the traditional trend of men having sex with women and enables the female partner to flip the gender dynamic and take charge of the sexual experience. Saying that, there are also a lot of lesbians who rarely leave the house without slipping a sexy strap on into their purse… just in case they also get a little action themselves.
Pegging helps you to spice things up a lot
Traditionally, sex is viewed as an activity that is dominated by men (eye roll). However, times have moved on a lot since the dark ages. Women are more inclined to take charge in the bedroom, and men are more open to exploring other areas of their sexuality. With this change in sexual attitudes, role reversal offers a natural progression for couples seeking to add a little snap, crackle and pop into their sex lives.
Furthermore, pegging also allows both couples to explore the change in power dynamic that comes with penetrative sex. After all, there is a sense of vulnerability about a person who is being penetrated and pleasured. Experimenting with a change is roles doesn’t just spice things up, but it adds a whole new dimension to your sex life.
Pegging is great for communication
The first time you experiment with pegging, it can be a very daunting experience; especially if your partner hasn’t experimented with any anal sex or masturbation products in the past. Before and after introducing something different into the bedroom, good communication is essential to ensure that you are both comfortable with trying something new.
Once strap on play has finished, take some time to relax and enjoy a debrief about the experience. What were the things that you liked, or didn’t like and whether there is anything that you want to try differently next time? This will help to open the lines of communication between you both and ensure that the experience continues to get better and better.
How to introduce pegging into the bedroom
Whether you’re a curious man or woman, bringing up the subject of pegging can be a little difficult. Especially, if anal play is an area that you have never discussed previously. Before you start the conversation, it is better to ensure that you are somewhere that you both feel relaxed and comfortable, and that you have some privacy.
It is important to remember that pegging isn’t necessarily a topic that everyone has heard of and therefore you may need to provide an explanation as to what it entails. If it helps, visit a website which sells pegging products so you can explain a little more about how the process works and demystify any questions that you or your partner may have.
Once you have explained pegging to your partner, ask them what their thoughts are and explain your reasons for wanting to try it. It helps to be clear and concise with your dialogue so that you can get your point across to them properly. For some, it could be the thought of experimenting with power play and role reversal and for others, it could be plain old curiosity. If it helps, remind your partner about all the super sensitive pleasure nerves contained within the anus and the possibility of a sheet clutching orgasm.
If you are a man wanting to try pegging with your female partner, the same rules apply. Your partner may feel a little strange, particularly as pegging may be something that they have never done before. Again, explain your reasons why and invite them to give their views on the subject too. There are some great female strap on dildo’s which also stimulate the female partner too, so you both benefit from a mutually satisfying experience.
The most important part of the conversation is respect. Be respectful of your partner’s views and ask them to be respectful of yours. If they don’t want to try pegging immediately, you can always build up to it by experimenting with other forms of anal play and broach the subject again in the future. If they want more time to consider pegging, respect their wishes.
Furthermore, opening up a conversation about pegging could also help to open up the conversation about other things that you want in the bedroom. Perhaps he isn’t ready to try pegging, but is open to the possibility exploring other forms of power play and kink such as bondage or dressing up.
Pegging essentials
Even if your partner isn’t ready to try pegging at this stage. Paying a visit to your local sex toy shop and looking at some of the pegging essentials can help to further demystify the pegging process. For example, by looking at the different types of harness and beginners pegging dildo’s can reassure a timid partner who may have concerns about pain during pegging. Also, by looking through the different products, it may help to give better clarity about the options you have. Are you going for a beginners pegging kit or would you like an interchangeable harness so that you can experiment with different styles of dildo?
The choice is completely up to you!
