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1. The Classic Hard-On

This boner shows up when a man is turned on and ready to go, either solo or with a partner. These boners normally start showing up during puberty and continue to pop up regularly throughout most of a man’s adult life.

2. Morning Wood

Every man’s had it: morning wood. These boners are often present upon waking and for most men, it can take several minutes for things to settle down there. One great thing about morning wood? It makes for incredible morning quickies — if you can resist the urge to go to the loo.

3. The Bedtime Boner

Bedtime boners tend to creep up on a man just as he’s crawling into bed and winding down for the night. These boners are best relieved by rubbing one out quickly before drifting off to sleep.

4. Boners With Bad Timing

Nearly every man has experienced that horrifying moment — they’re sitting in church, visiting with their Grandma or chatting with their boss and then out of nowhere it pops up: an erection.

5. The Unexpected Boner

Similar to number four, the unexpected boner shows up at odd times. What makes it different is the fact that this boner is rooted in actual arousal. A man never knows when the unexpected boner might make its appearance — it may show up during an episode of Golden Girls or even while being reprimanded by their boss or hanging with the guys.

6. The Full-Bladder Boner

Every once in a while, when a man really has to pee, the full-bladder boner makes its appearance. This boner is far from being a sign of arousal, it’s a more simple, fake-out erection type that ceases as soon as the bladder is relieved. Aim, at this point, is optional.

7. The Peeing-in-Public Stiffy

Maybe it’s the excitement of whipping it out in public or maybe it’s just the sheer awkwardness of it, but many men end up with erections when they’re in a public toilet. Again, aim is optional.

8. The Hard-On That Won’t Go Away & 9. The Medical Emergency Boner

If a man gets aroused and his boner isn’t taken care of, it might decide to stick around a while. This erection type usually occurs after a man has sexual contact with a partner and doesn’t get the chance to finish. These boners can be relentless and, in some cases, last hours. Usually, the best way to relieve this type of boner is by masturbating. When that doesn’t work, it might be time to consult a doctor.

10. The Sweatpants Boner

There’s just something about sweatpants that gets guys hard. And obviously so.

11. The “Oh, that’s just my jeans!” Boner

Men’s denim sometimes tents in just the right place, making it look like there’s a boner when there’s really nothing there at all. Honest.

12. The Quickie Boner

It’s not what you think — the quickie boner pops up, usually for no reason, and then disappears just as quickly.

13. The Nocturnal Erection

Starting in puberty, men have an average of three to five boners every night. While they may sometimes be related to an erotic dream, in most cases, it’s nothing more than an involuntary twitch.

14. The Not-So-Hard Hard-On

This erection type is technically a hard-on that’s well, just not that hard. A semi.

15. The Puberty Erection

During puberty, it seems that the penis spends more time up than it does down. These boners happen multiple times during the day and night — sometimes without a valid reason. As men grow out of puberty and into adulthood, erections usually become better-timed and less frequent.

16. The Work-Out Boner

There’s nothing like a good work-out to get the blood rushing. And for some men, that blood heads straight to the penis.

17. The Hardest Hard-Ons

Some erections are just better than others. These boners are extra-engorged, which for most men, is a serious boost of confidence.

18. The Back-In-Action Boner

Once a man reaches a certain age, achieving and maintaining boners can be a little more difficult than it was in their younger years. However, every once in a while an older man attains that legendary erection that he often experienced in his younger years.

We have decided to look at some of the common myths about HIV and explore the facts.

HIV and AIDS are the same thing

Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS) is not the same as HIV. It is a collection of illnesses caused by the weakening of the immune system. Before there were effective treatments available, many of the people diagnosed with HIV later dies of AIDS. Thankfully, due to the advances in treatment this number has drastically reduced. However, it is estimated that there are around 7, 500 people who have undiagnosed HIV in the UK so if you have had unprotected sex, it is important to visit your local GUM clinic for STI testing and a HIV test.

People with HIV are dirty

This is a particularly damaging myth about HIV. Intravenous drug use and unprotected sex are two of the most common ways that the virus is spread. However, that doesn’t mean that a person is dirty, and it certainly adds to the feelings of embarrassment and shame that a person experiences when they are diagnosed. Instead of focusing on stigmatising those with HIV, listening to their story and opening a dialogue will provide a much stronger level of education about living with HIV and the realities faced by those who are diagnosed.

HIV is a death sentence

In 1996, the life expectancy of someone with HIV was 39 years old. However, huge advances in medication means that a person who regularly takes their antiviral treatment is expected to have the same lifespan as someone who doesn’t have the virus. However, there can still be complications with treatment, so it is important to speak to your doctor if you have any concerns.

HIV can be passed on through day to day contact

HIV is not spread by sharing day to activities. HIV is spread when bodily fluids come into contact with blood or mucus membranes. This can be through the vagina, anus, mouth or directly into the blood stream. HIV can not be spread through kissing, using a toilet seat, sharing food or drink and hugging. This myth is extremely upsetting and isolates those who are living with HIV.

Straight people don’t get HIV

Some groups do have a higher risk of contracting HIV. However, anyone regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation or age can catch the virus. According to Terrance Higgins, 1,550 people were diagnosed with HIV through heterosexual contact in 2018.

HIV is a man-made disease

HIV is not a man-made virus. It is similar to a virus that was found in chimpanzees. It is believed that the virus passed to humans after a man was injured during a chimpanzee hunt and blood from the chimp entered his blood stream.

People who take PrEP don’t need to use condoms

Pre-exposure prophylaxis is a drug that is taken daily and has proved to be highly effective in protecting against the transmission of HIV. However, PrEP fails to protect against other sexually transmitted infections or unwanted pregnancy. Therefore, it is strongly advised that PrEP is used alongside other safe sex practises.

HIV is passed on every time you have sex

A woman doesn’t fall pregnant every time she has sex and the transmission of HIV works the same way. However, anti-viral drugs can reduce the viral load to the point of it being undetectable. This means that the virus can not be transmitted to another person. Those on medication are regularly assessed to ensure that they remain healthy and their medication is working effectively. Therefore, those having regular safe sex can do so without fear or worry.

Women can’t get HIV

In the United Kingdom, 1 in 3 of those living with HIV are women and a quarter of new diagnoses are women. Government reports show that women are more likely to be stigmatised, experience social care inequalities and experience poverty because of their diagnosis. Women’s voices are more likely to be missing from current research and lobby groups such as the Terence Higgins Trust are demanding that the government work a lot harder to educate and meet the needs of women with HIV.

You don’t need to use condoms if both partners have HIV

There are several strains of HIV. If you are taking anti-viral medication which is going well and the virus is undetectable, then you become infected by a different strain of HIV, this will have an adverse effect on the medication that you are taking. As a result, the HIV very quickly wreaks havoc on your body and begins to flourish. Thus, rendering all your progress ineffective.
Some strains of HIV are resistant to medication, if you contract one of those particular strains, you could be in trouble. Anti-viral medication also doesn’t protect against other sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy so there are other risks involved.

People with HIV can’t have children

For men and women who have an undetectable viral load, the chances of passing HIV onto a baby is very low. As soon as you decide that you want to conceive a child, speak to your healthcare professionals about the different options available and they will work to support you. The baby may need medication for a few weeks after the birth, but the risk of transmission is less than 1%. You can reduce the risks of transmission further by bottle feeding or selecting a caesarean section.

If you have any questions about a HIV myth that you have heard or you would like some advice about STI or HIV testing, please get in touch with us at Bathmate and we will point you towards the services that can help you.

But that doesn’t mean that you must miss out on some quality time together.

The UK has some of the most beautiful and scenic places in the world and because they are so easy to get to, they are perfect for a romantic weekend break or short romantic getaway. To make things even easier for you, the Bathmate team put our heads together and came up with some of the best romantic breaks in the UK.

Edinburgh

As well as being home to some of the most romantic hotels in the world, the Scottish city of Edinburgh is perfect for a weekend of romance. Climb to the top of the Scott Monument and enjoy the breath-taking views of the City or sit and relax as you watch the sun set behind Edinburgh Castle. Edinburgh is also a hive for cultural events and boasts some of the finest restaurants in the country, events such as the Edinburgh Fringe, Christmas markets and even the Harry Potter trail. If you want to stay somewhere opulent and exciting, The Witchery by the Castle is a gothic style boutique hotel which is beautifully decorated and located right in the heart of Edinburgh. Best of all, this hotel contains lovely deep baths so you can truly relax whilst using your favourite Bathmate sex essentials and pumps. After all, no romantic break is complete without them.

The Lake District

For those on a tighter budget, the Lake District has some of the most beautiful scenery in the whole of the UK and has lots of affordable places to stay. Firm favourites are glamping pod breaks, caravan breaks, Air B&B holidays and hotel stays. The Lake District truly offers romantic breaks to suit every budget. Relive a mis-spent youth wandering around the World of Beatrix Potter or cuddle together and enjoy a cruise on Lake Windermere. If you enjoy walking, there are lots of hilly walks to explore, followed by an evening traditional British food whilst cosying up in front of an open fire. For those who prefer to stay somewhere without any children, Willowsmere, located in Grasmere, is an adult only B&B which has beautiful gardens and to explore and contains an ensuite bathroom, so you can use your favourite waterproof sex toys with ease.

The City of London

It doesn’t require lots of imagination to find things to do in the city of London, but it certainly has something romantic to suit all types of budget. With a little planning beforehand, you can find so much to do in London without having to take a second mortgage. We found that by staying outside of the City in areas like Croyden and taking a train journey into the City, you can get 2 for 1 entry into some of London’s best-loved attractions such as the London Eye, Kew Gardens, lots of museums, activity centres and high quality restaurants. The De Vere Selsdon Estate in South Croyden is a beautiful place to stay, with huge gardens, opulent décor and excellent facilities for those who have disabilities.

The Hot Springs Of Bath

Bathmate have long advocated the healing powers of water, which is why our award-winning penis pumps harness hydro power to get the excellent results that they do. Bath might not be an obvious choice when shopping for a romantic break, but The Roman Baths are located in one of the few thermal springs left in the UK and still flow with naturally hot water. Although we wouldn’t recommend taking your favourite Bathmate products along to the venue, you can marvel at the beautiful roman craftmanship, explore ruins and even enjoy a dip in the Thermae Bath Spa, a more modern equivalent to the Roman Baths. As you bathe in naturally warm waters on the rooftop pool, soak up the extraordinary views of this beautiful city and watch the sunset. Finish off the evening by heading to one of Baths fine eateries for drinks and traditional British grub.

Cornwall

Long hailed as one of the most romantic places in the UK, Cornwall is famed for the beautiful blue sea, sandy beaches and impressive history. During all weathers, Cornwall has lots to offer visitors, but many prefer to take advantage of the Cornish beauty during the summer months. Those hoping for a proposal this Valentine’s Day may want to enjoy a leisurely stroll to St Michaels Mount where romantic wishes are said to come true or pay a visit to the world famous Minack Theatre and enjoy the outdoor entertainment whilst the sun sets over Portcurno Bay. If you’d prefer to watch the sunset in a more private setting, relax and unwind in a private cliff top hot tub at The Scarlett. Just don’t forget to pack your Bathmate Essentials!

Lake Vyrnwy in Wales

Located just on the edge of Snowdonia, Lake Vyrnwy promises beautiful unspoilt scenery, spectacular waterfalls and lots of different things to explore. Adventure seekers may want to take a walk-up mount Snowden or enjoy a boat ride together on the crystal-clear waters. There are facilities for cycle hire, horse riding and clay pigeon shooting too. Those seeking something a little more relaxing may want to take advantage of Cyfie Farm Spa where you can hire a private hot tub and enjoy spectacular views of the welsh countryside. Once the sun sets over Lake Vyrnwy, the lack of light pollution in the area means that it’s perfect for stargazing. As you cuddle together, spot planetary neighbours such as Jupitar and Venus and marvel at the glow of other galaxies such as Andromeda. There are very few places that these stars can be spotted in the UK, so this is a unique experience that your beau will never forget.

Once you get back to the hotel, you can unpack your favourite Bathmate sex toys and continue the romantic evening with an orgasm that like Andromeda, is simply out of this world!

Cock rings aren’t just for sex experts. They can do everything from maintain an erection, delay orgasm, extend your penis size and provide your partner (if they’re female) with clitoral stimulation.

The Anatomy of a Penis Ring

Most cock rings are simple O-rings made from silicone, leather or steel. The majority are placed at the base of the cock and underneath the scrotum.

An erection occurs when blood fills the penis and becomes flaccid after ejaculation. The penis ring keeps the blood from escaping and keeps the erection longer. In fact, cock rings offer comparable results to the infamous Squeeze Method, which delays orgasm by constricting the testicles and penis.

If properly used, a cock ring can help you maintain an erection and offer your lover lengthy pleasure that’s hard to achieve without some type of aid.

A Cock Ring to Rule Them All

Cock rings can add width, length and clitoral stimulation, but these toys have some rules you’ve got to follow to safely enjoy these benefits.

1. Choose your fit wisely: A cock ring should be snug but not so much that it makes you feel numb. An ill-fitting penis ring can cause permanent damage.
2. Start stretchy: Steel and wooden cock rings don’t provide a lot of wiggle room, so they aren’t for newbies. Instead, opt for stretchy silicone rings that allow novices to adjust the size of the ring to suit your equipment.
3. Manscaping is necessary: Trimmed pubic hair is just being polite to your partner, but it’s a requirement if you’re trying out a cock ring. It’s not going to feel good if those short and curlies get yanked and pulled with every thrust.
4. Remove after 20 minutes: As mentioned before, a cock ring that’s too tight will cause numbness, pain or change the skin color of your penis. If this occurs remove it immediately. The penis ring should be snug but not painful.

Pick the Right Type of Penis Ring

Cock rings come in a wide variety of shapes, colors and sizes. It might be overwhelming trying to pick one without knowing the main four types.

• Stretchy cock rings: These are best for beginners. These are made from plastic like a soft silicone and are enclosed loops that stretch around the penis and scrotum. The downside to stretchy rings is that they may not be tight enough to achieve the results you’re after.
• Solid rings: Solid rings are for experienced penis ring users only! These are made from steel and other metals. If you wear a solid cock ring that’s too small for your erection it may permanently harm your penis.
• Adjustable: These are the neckties of the penis ring world. They often close using things like lasso-style adjusters, Velcro, snaps and D-rings. These are easily worn underneath the testicles and around the base of the penis.
• Vibrating cock rings: These are ideal if your lover has a clitoris. There’s a tiny motor whirring away inside vibrating rings to provide stimulation to the clitoris. Typically, these are worn at the base of the penis, not looping below the scrotum. A tip for getting the maximum pleasure out of your ring is to have the woman on top, so she can apply the right amount of pressure.

Delaying Orgasm

Cock rings may come to be for the purpose of delaying a climax, but they can help in lots of other ways too. Many sex toy companies mix the cock ring with a device that extends the length or girth of the natural penis. These nifty toys can help you provide a different experience for your lover helping to keep the lust flowing between you.

Penis rings also help with a medical condition called ‘venous leakage’. Venous leakage is a form of erectile dysfunction that occurs when the tissues in the penis aren’t capable of filling with blood to form an erection.

Get the Most Out of Your Penis Pump with a Cock Ring

Mixing a penis ring with a penis pump can help increase the size of your cock and maintain the bigger size during your amorous encounters. Men often use a penis pump to buff up their cock size and then slide on a cock ring to keep those gains.

Cock rings aren’t just for Valentine’s day. They can add a different dimension to your love life while easing any issues surrounding performance anxiety.

If there is a falsehood that you think we haven’t covered, get in touch and we’ll be sure to include it in a future post.

A longer penis is better during sex

‘Long and thin goes too far in, short and thick, does the trick!’ If you haven’t heard the saying before, please accept my apologies for the truly terrible rhyme. However, a research study conducted by Women’s Health argues that a large majority of the participants preferred a penis that was shorter and girthier than one that was longer and thinner. That’s not to say that a long penis will not feel pleasurable, but this study helped to dispel the myth that shorter penises were inadequate.

Women care about the size of your penis

The university of California recently presented 75 women with 33 penises of all sizes and shape. There were carefully crafted using plastic but identifying features such as skin colour were removed. Based on these observations, the women preferred a penis that was on average, 6.3 inches in length and 4.8 inches in circumference. Hardly the huge whopper that we are led to believe that women want. Personally, I believe that both men and women are just happy to have a fulfilling relationship in which both parties are treated well and respected.

If you masturbate before sex, you last longer in bed

Who can forget ‘that’ famous scene in There’s Something About Mary, but does masturbation help you to last long before sex? There is no definitive answer to this. However, after sex or masturbation there is a period of recovery which is called the refractory period. During this time, any stimulation may be uncomfortable because your body is trying to recover. This may mean that it takes longer to feel sexually aroused, but this depends on factors such as your age and sensitivity. Younger men and women have shorter refractory periods, whilst older men can find it difficult to become sexually stimulated for 12-24 hours. So you may last longer the second time around, but you may also find it harder to get there.

Growers and Showers?

A grower is someone who has a small penis when flaccid but grows to a more substantial length when aroused, whilst a shower is someone who has a long penis when flaccid. For those who have spotted someone in the gym with an impressive penis and felt inadequate, evidence shows that showers don’t grow very much when around, so you probably both look very similar when erect.

A small penis can’t make a woman orgasm

The female G Spot is located just two inches into the vagina which means that it can reached and stimulated by almost any penis. Those with a penis size that is smaller than average can use positions that provide deeper penetration such as doggy style, or partner on top to increase stimulation to their partner to. During sex, reaching around to stimulate your partners genitals also increase their chance of orgasm. After all, lots of women struggle to orgasm during penetrative sex, regardless of the size of their partners penis, so a helping hand is often required.

The size of your feet will predict penis size

Ever heard the myth that a man with big feet means that he will have a bigger penis? However, studies have shown that there is absolutely no correlation between the size of your feet and the size of your penis. Other bodies parts such as hands, height and build have also been examined and there have been no consistencies among those either. Interestingly, your ethnicity does have some influence in the size of your penis. A 2013 study found that men of African descent tended to have the longest penises, reporting an average of 6.33 inches, while East Asian men reported the shortest penises with an average of 4.31 inches. European men are sized somewhere in the middle at 5.71 inches when erect.

You can’t break a penis because it contains no bones

It is true that the penis has no bones. However, the penis contains the corpora cavernosa which are fibrous tissues that carry blood supply and they are protected by ligaments. An injury to the penis is very rare but usually occurs when there is a misalignment during sex. When the injury occurs, the cracking noise that is not bone but the ligaments rupturing. When this injury occurs, it usually requires emergency treatment.

A penis can’t be enlarged

It is widely reported that it is possible to enlarge the size of your penis. Lots of men seek remedies to make a penis bigger such as pills, creams and surgery. However, medical interventions are not always successful and can have long term health repercussions. Using a natural method to enlarge the size of your penis can generate a better success rate with less risks. For example, using a hydro pump such as the Bathmate Hydromax for up to 15 minutes per day can help you to make gains to the length and girth of your penis in a way that is safe, effective and enjoyable.

A penis is straight

Just as penis’s come in all different shapes and sizes, they are very rarely perfectly straight. Some may have a slight curve in a certain direction. However, if the penis is dramatically curved, this can be a sign of Peyronie’s Disease. This is a condition in which scar tissue forms and creates a deep bend which makes sexual intercourse very difficult. This condition can be treated with surgery.

Whilst many recreational users prefer to use this drug occasionally, some people are finding it increasingly difficult to break the habit. We have decided to explore the effects of cocaine on your heath, wealth and wellbeing whilst also discussing getting help for cocaine addiction.

What is Cocaine?

Cocaine is a white powder that is sometimes known as coke, flake, sniff, Charlie or toot (this list is not exhaustive). Cocaine is usually snorted using a note or key and works as a short-term stimulant. Users often feel more energetic, chatty and confident after using the drug. However, because the high from cocaine wears off after 20-30 min, this often leaves users craving more. Cocaine is usually quite expensive too, with users paying around £30-£50 per gram. As you become more accustomed to taking cocaine, users find that they start to crave it more. Some people mix cocaine with alcohol and find that they crave cocaine more when they have been drinking, so it fast becomes a dangerous and expensive habit.

How does cocaine affect your health?

Cocaine is risky for anyone who has a history of heart problems or high blood pressure, but even healthy young people have died from fitting or heart attacks if they take too much. Once users come down, they may experience feelings of anxiety, depression or paranoia. Cocaine use can also increase mental health problems if you have them or bring them to the surface. Suicide rates amongst those using cocaine have also increased with cocaine users up to 16 times more likely to attempt suicide. Combining cocaine and alcohol also creates the toxic chemical cocaethylene, which can lead to a heart attack whilst regularly snorting cocaine can also lead to nosebleeds, loss of smell and can destroy the cartilage in your nose.

Cocaine and sex

Due to the stimulating properties of cocaine, initially this drug can significantly boost your sex drive. Users report feeling more euphoric, confident and sexy in the bedroom. However, the effects wear off quickly and can result in several negative consequences.

Cocaine users are more likely to become caught up in the moment and less likely to seek out a condom if there isn’t one readily available. This can lead to an increase in sexually transmitted infections or an unwanted pregnancy. Rough sex whilst high on cocaine can also damage condoms which leaves users at risk of STI’s.

Obtaining consent from someone when you’re both high on cocaine is difficult because your judgement is clouded and in the eyes of the law, you cannot consent to sexual activity. This can leave you at risk of sexual assault or being accused of sexual assault by someone who was legally unable to consent.

Long term use of cocaine or cocaine addiction can lead to sexual dysfunction in which men may struggle to achieve or maintain and erection or female users struggling to achieve orgasm or natural lubrication. Feelings of anxiety and depression may also cause low libido and poor sexual satisfaction which may cause problems within relationships and exacerbate feelings of depression and low moods.

What are the signs of a cocaine addiction?

Cocaine is highly addictive because it causes a release of the chemical dopamine. This chemical causes users to feel happy and euphoric. However, regular use of cocaine harms the dopamine neurotransmitters which means that they will find it much harder to feel pleasure and happiness naturally. In effect, users seek more cocaine to replicate the happy chemical and this can lead to cocaine addiction.

Some of the signs of cocaine addiction are:

• Irritability
• Restlessness
• Lying about cocaine use
• Hiding cocaine use
• Failure to meet responsibilities at home or work
• Strained relationships with family or friends
• Poor money management
• Nosebleeds
• Gastric ulcers
• Perforation of stomach or small bowel
• Impaired sexual function
• Inability to smell
• Dilated pupils
• Difficulties swallowing
• Chronic, runny nose
• Hoarseness
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Delusions
• Hallucinations
• Paranoia
• Psychosis
• Extremely violent behaviour

How to get help with a cocaine addiction

Studies show that 61% of people who seek treatment for cocaine addiction stop taking cocaine within 6 months. Users don’t have to take cocaine every day to have a cocaine problem or be classed as an addict. If they have tried to cut down on their cocaine use or stop taking cocaine and they can’t, this is a sign that they have a problem.

Users can visit their GP for a referral for treatment, or they can self-refer to a local drug treatment facility for help. Initially, users will be allocated a key worker who will work with the individual to put together a tailored plan so that they can beat cocaine addiction with the best support. If you have other addiction such as alcohol, cannabis or heroin, you may be offered treatments to help beat those addictions too.

The National Health Service recommend several different therapies as being effective for beating addiction to cocaine, these are:

Therapies such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapies help you to understand more about your behaviour and addiction to cocaine. This can help you to make changes that you need and develop techniques to help you to combat cravings. Talking within a group setting can also help users to feel less alone and feel more able to talk about their experiences with others who are experiencing something similar.

For those seeking something help that is tailored to your individual needs, you may want to visit other support groups such as Narcotics Anonymous or Cocaine Anonymous for specialised support. At Bathmate, we are strong believers in getting help when you need it. If you have any further questions about getting help for drug addiction, you can contact us anonymously and we will direct you to some services that can help you.

1. You Have a Crooked Member

It’s perfectly normal for a healthy penis to have a slight curve to the left or the right when erect, (We’re looking at you, Enrique). But, if you’re seeing a significant bend, you should pay a visit to your GP. It could be a sign of Peyronie’s disease, a condition which, if left untreated, can eventually lead to erectile dysfunction.

Symptoms of Peyronie’s disease, according to the NHS, include:

• A penis that curves upwards when erect

• Painful erections

• A hard lump in the shaft of the penis

• A penis that looks misshapen, resembling an hourglass

• Loss of length or girth

2. You Can’t Get it Up

Occasional erectile dysfunction, or the inability to achieve or maintain an erection, is nothing to write home about. (Brewer’s droop, anyone?)

However, if floppy jalopies are a regular occurrence for you, it’s time to get your heart health checked. Erectile dysfunction, especially in younger men, should be regarded as an early warning sign of coronary artery disease. Men with ED are at serious risk of experiencing a heart attack or stroke within three to five years.

Another sobering statistic: more than half of patients with coronary bypass surgery, and almost three-quarters of patients who have had a heart attack, also experienced ED. Arteriosclerosis, or the growth of plaque in the arteries, limits blood flow to your heart and your penis, leading to both erection problems and cardiac conditions.

The good news? Your pecker is doing you a favor by giving you plenty of advanced warning about your ticker. Chances are, you still have time to get the treatment you need to reduce the risk of heart problems down the road.

3. You Have Performance Anxiety

If you’ve been putting on a poor performance between the sheets, you might be suffering from underlying mental health concerns. If your GP has ruled out physical causes, and you’re not under the influence of any substances, psychological issues may be at play.

Your mind plays a huge role in the function of your penis. According to research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, stress is a leading cause of erectile dysfunction in young men. Anxiety, depression, guilt, low self-esteem and fear of failure can also make it difficult to perform sexually. It can be a Catch-22, however, as many of the treatments for these conditions only worsen the problem. Antidepressant medication might raise the spirits, but it also lowers sex drive, making it even harder to get (and stay) hard.

Lack of sleep, which is often a side effect of mental health issues like anxiety, can also be a culprit. Those spontaneous erections that pop up during the night keep your penis primed like a pump. If you’re not getting enough sleep, you won’t have the energy for sexual activities, and your penis won’t function as well as it should.

4. You’re Seeing Spots

No penis is perfectly smooth. Fordyce spots, for example, are small white or yellow spots that appear on the shaft or head. The spots are sebaceous glands, which can show up elsewhere on the body, including the lips and inside your cheeks.

The bottom line is, every penis has a few lumps and bumps here and there. So, how do you know if the spots you’re seeing signify something more serious? Painful bumps, open sores, blisters, and cauliflower like growths that appear alone or in clusters all warrant a trip to the GP. And, while penile cancer is very rare, be on the lookout for telltale symptoms, like thickening of the skin, changes in skin colour or the development of a sore.

If anything new or suspicious pops up on your penis at any time, it’s always best to get it checked out.

5. You Have Plumbing Problems

What comes out of your penis can reveal what’s going on inside. If you have even a tiny amount of blood in your urine, book an appointment with your GP. A urine test and kidney scan will rule out issues, such as bladder infection, injury, kidney stones, sexually transmitted infection and even — in rare cases — cancer.

Pus is another thing you’ll never see coming out of a healthy penis. It’s one of the main symptoms of STIs, such as gonorrhoea or chlamydia.

Cloudy or dark urine can be a sign of dehydration or urinary tract infection. However, some foods change the colour of pee. Beets can give it a reddish tint, while asparagus can make it green.

Other pee problems, like not being able to fully empty your bladder, start or stop peeing can indicate an enlarged prostate. Don’t panic — it’s usually benign. However, if you’re having problems draining the snake on a regular basis, you should get screened for prostate cancer, just to play it safe.

Certain foods increase the production of natural testosterone and shield your sperm from the toxic effects of foods that are detrimental to your fertility. However, before we get into which foods to eat and which ones to avoid to improve your sperm health, let’s take a brief look at what sperm health entails.

What It Means to Have a Healthy Penis and Sperm

Many couples struggle to get pregnant. In more than a third of these cases, it’s the man’s sperm that’s the problem. Sperm cells originate from germ cells, and the number of germ cells that migrate into your testes during fetal development determines your sperm count.

The quality of sperm depends on:

• Sperm count: The number of sperm in a semen sample.
• Sperm morphology: The shape and size of sperm cells.
• Sperm motility: The effectiveness with which sperm swim.
• Semen volume: The minimum amount of semen necessary to get sperm into the female reproductive tract.

At least 25% of a fertile man’s sperm cells are rapidly progressive, meaning they’re swimming in the right direction and at the right speed to reach the egg. Poor motility occurs when free radicals (highly reactive substances) fragment and cause damage to sperm DNA. To be clear, sperm fragmentation is common. It’s only detrimental to your fertility when it occurs at high rates (more than 20%). Diet isn’t the only factor that affects the fragmentation of sperm DNA (age does as well), but it is the most important one.

Now that we’ve defined good sperm health, let’s find out what to include and exclude from your diet to improve your reproductive health.

What to Eat and What to Avoid for Good Sperm Health

Several factors, such as your general health, hereditary factors, overall fitness, weight status, diet and psychological health, affect the quality of your sperm. Top among these factors is diet. Practicing good nutrition can greatly improve your reproductive health.

The following foods help your fertility:

• Vegetables and fruits – They contain a variety of vitamins, minerals (including folate and zinc) and antioxidants that aid in sperm development.

• Beef – Lean beef contains zinc, Selenium, L-Carnitine, and Coenzyme Q-10, which aid in sperm production.

• Seafood – Seafood is a lean protein that contains vitamin E, Selenium and Coenzyme Q10. Together, these nutrients improve the production of sperm and protect it from toxins.

• Poultry – Poultry contains zinc, which aids the production of DNA and increases testosterone levels.

• Nuts – The omega-3 fatty acids in nuts enhance the quality of sperm, which the Coenzyme Q10 protects it.

Avoid excess consumption of the following:

• Fat – Excess fat can raise cholesterol and clog the circulatory system, which can lead to health problems, such as erectile dysfunction.

• Soy – Consuming excess soy, which contains phytoestrogens, can cause an imbalance in testosterone and estrogen. Low testosterone can result in a low sperm count.

• Sugar – Excess sugar consumption can increase aromatase, an enzyme that is involved in the conversion of testosterone to estrogen.

Maintaining good overall health is easier than many people imagine. Start with the basics and eat a balanced diet, exercise regularly and get quality sleep.

Avoid Cigarette Smoking and Excess Consumption of Alcohol

Excess alcohol consumption and cigarette smoking also negatively impact your reproductive health. Alcohol may increase the production of estrogen in the liver, which could diminish the quality of your sperm and poison cells in the testes. Keep in mind that alcohol is only negatively impactful when you consume it in high doses.

Smoking, on the other hand, is responsible for about 13% of all cases of infertility. Circulating blood transports cigarette toxins throughout the body. These toxins cause dangerously high rates of DNA fragmentation and increase the likelihood of bearing children with developmental issues.

In addition to maintaining a healthy diet for healthy sperm, it is imperative that you minimize your alcohol intake and avoid harmful recreational substances, such as cigarettes and other narcotics. If you’re reading this and have a history of excess alcohol consumption and smoking, don’t despair. Your body continuously produces sperm. Therefore, making these simple lifestyle changes can significantly improve your sperm health.

Getting older is inevitable and comes with a long list of unwanted problems, but most men don’t think about the aging of their penises. Men assume their best little buddy will stay young forever. The fact is that your penis health is directly related to the health of your body. You need to think about the health of your penis now if you want a future filled with between-the-sheets activity. Not to worry, there are things you can do to improve your penis health, keeping him happy and young for many years.

Healthy Diet

The healthier your body and mind are, the healthier your penis will be. To keep your penis looking sleek and young, be sure to eat healthy foods and stay in an optimal body fat range; obesity can increase your chances of erectile dysfunction by up to 30%. Studies show that reduced fat in the body allows for more testosterone and blood circulation, a double whammy of penis health. And as an added plus, reducing your belly fat can add length to your little man, making him look not so little.

Antioxidant-rich plant foods help increase blood flow and maintain penis health, and don’t forget the spinach for boosted testosterone and carrots for healthy sperm. Drinking plenty of water helps move blood around the body, helping your penis achieve sustainable erections efficiently.

Limit Tobacco and Alcohol

Smoking has been shown to reduce blood flow and shrink arteries, a recipe for bedroom disaster. Reduced blood flow causes damage to the erectile cells, creating a buildup of scar tissue. Scar tissue doesn’t get hard, so too much and your penis will curve. Peyronie’s disease is a condition where the penis has an extreme curve due to scar tissue buildup, causing erectile dysfunction. Extreme cases of Peyronie’s may require surgery.

Overconsumption of alcohol can play a huge part in erectile dysfunction, reducing blood flow to your penis. Also, alcohol reduces the production of testosterone, so over time, your libido will take a hit. So, drink in moderation, boys.

Safe Sex

STIs are a common occurrence with sexually active men, and the best way to prevent getting an STI is to practice safe sex. Using a condom is always a good idea, but if you and your partner don’t want to use condoms, make sure you are both checked beforehand. Some STIs can be treated, but others are for life, so be sure to take the proper precautions when bumping uglies.

Regular Sex

Despite how common erectile dysfunction is, there are things you can do to keep it at bay. One of the most important things you can do to keep your little soldier in working order is to keep him active. A study published in the American Journal of Medicine found that men who have intercourse at least once per week are at reduced risk for erectile dysfunction. Men who have sex less than once per week reported twice as many cases of erectile dysfunction. The adage of “use it or lose it” appears to be true.

Exercise and Sleep

Exercise has been shown to increase blood circulation and overall cardiovascular health. The Harvard School of Public Health found that men who regularly exercise are less likely to get ED than inactive men. Getting a good run a couple of days a week will go a long way toward keeping your penis healthy for years to come.

Getting enough sleep is a must for men who want to remain healthy. Lack of sleep is linked to a variety of health issues that can begin to hurt your sex life in the years to come. You get several erections while you sleep that help boost blood circulation and allow the penile tissue to receive more oxygen. Sleep is your number one friend when it comes to a healthy penis. Sleep deprivation is linked to chronic erectile dysfunction and the overall aging of the penis. So, do you and your downstairs buddy a favor and get some quality shut-eye.

If you don’t take good care of your little lad, he’ll be one of the first parts of you to show signs of ageing. The good news is that you can keep him healthy and horny with a few simple lifestyle tweaks. Read on to discover our comprehensive guide to maintaining your manhood.

Workout Your Wang

You’ll be pleased to know that the number one piece of advice we can give you is to use the tool you’ve been gifted with. A study by Harvard University found that blokes who cum more frequently — upwards of 21 times per month — have a 33% lower risk of developing prostate cancer than those who neglect the splooge. Don’t worry if you’re a single fella or you’re going through a dry patch in your relationship, masturbation and nighttime emissions count, too.

Not only that, there’s excellent news for lads who love to get their bonk on. Men who have sex at least once a week are less likely to suffer erectile dysfunction than those who roll in the hay less often. A Finnish study has shown that the more you use it, the better your erections will be!

Stay Fit With Regular Exercise

It’s not just your willy that you need to work out to keep him performing at his best; it’s your entire body. Plenty of evidence links a sedentary lifestyle with erectile dysfunction, so if you want to improve staying power and ensure you stay rock hard, be sure to enjoy plenty of aerobic exercise. Running and swimming are the best for penile health. Too much cycling can adversely affect your crown jewels by damaging your blood vessels down there. Ouch.

Let Go of Stress

Leave your stress at work and minimise stressful situations in your home life to keep your stiffy strong. Excess adrenaline is released into the bloodstream when you’re in a state of worry, causing your blood vessels — including the ones in your dong — to contract. There are plenty of methods you can use to ease tension and unwind, from meditation to laughter or pumping iron, all of which can help keep your peen performing.

Cut Down on Booze

One way many people choose to relieve pressure after a hard day’s work is hitting the bottle. However, if you want to enjoy a healthy sex life long into the future, alcohol can seriously scupper your desire. Binge drinking and heavy drinking causes nerve and liver damage and can affect the careful balance of male sex hormones that keep you hard and horny. Even in the short term, alcohol curbs sensitivity and decreases reaction time, leaving you less able to perform.

Ditch the Ciggies

It’s no secret that cigarettes harm your blood vessels and have a negative impact on your heart health. Remember that your heart is the ultimate titan, pumping blood throughout your body — including to your dinkle. Nicotine also makes your blood vessels contract and can stifle blood flow to your shaft. Quitting smoking is a sure fire way to get harder, faster and stronger erections.

Watch Your Cholesterol Levels

Not being able to get it up becomes more of an issue the older you get — but it doesn’t have to. The reason age is tied into loss of erectile function is because as we age, we tend to put less effort into leading a healthy lifestyle. Cholesterol levels can climb up, leading to poor heart health and a floppy willy. High cholesterol narrows the blood vessels, which is the leading cause of ED. Keeping fit, eating healthily and avoiding cigarettes and alcohol are the ideal ways to lower cholesterol.

Keep Your Blood Pressure in Check

Like high cholesterol, high blood pressure is a sign of poor heart health. A healthy ticker and a healthy todger go hand in hand, so be sure to check your BP on a regular basis. High blood pressure can cause thickening of the arteries, which restricts the blood flow to your winkle and can cause problems with your Johnson. Losing weight and enjoying regular cardiovascular exercise, along with avoiding refined carbs and salty food, will naturally lower your blood pressure.

Drink Plenty of the H20

If you didn’t know the connection between hydration and hard-ons, now’s the time to get up to speed. The clear stuff keeps everything flowing, especially the plasma and blood cells that make your member stand to attention. If you’re dehydrated, the blood simply doesn’t flow as well as it should do. So, if you’re worried that your boner isn’t as mighty as it should be, up your daily intake of straight H2O to the recommended amount of eight glasses per day.

Eat the Right Food

We all know how important diet is to our overall health, but not many men realise how vital it is to feed the right diet to your manmeat. The fuel you put in your body won’t only help erections. It also improves sperm count, sex drive and even affect your risk of prostate cancer.

Avoid Munching These Foods

• Anything deep-fried
• Processed meats like bacon
• Soy
• Fizzy drinks
• Sugar
• Refined carbohydrates like white bread and breakfast cereals

Foods to Chow Down On

• Tomatoes: This tasty fruit (that’s right, it’s a fruit) gets its bright red colour from one of the most potent antioxidants, lycopene. It’s thought that oxidants play a crucial role in the development of male infertility and prostate cancer. Antioxidants help reverse the damage done by oxidants and heal your blood vessels, thus keeping your erections solid.
• Salmon: Omega-3 is a dynamo when it comes to health, and salmon is high in this oily treat. With anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties, it helps to prevent one of the leading causes of erectile dysfunction. Other sources of omega-3 include walnuts, leafy greens and hemp seeds.
• Olive oil: Polyunsaturated fats such as olive oil are known to have cardioprotective effects. Replacing butter with olive oil has been shown to seriously improve sexual health among men — as we know, a healthy heart means a healthy head.
• Oysters: These raunchy molluscs already have a reputation as an aphrodisiac, but they are also rich in zinc. This mineral is a building block for testosterone, so it supports sperm production and libido. Oysters are the food with the highest concentration of zinc, but other sources include pumpkin seeds, lobster, beef and crab.

Some Like It Hot

Another type of food associated with male sexual health is anything spicy. A French study has found that men who consume more spicy foods have higher testosterone levels than those who shy away from a tingling tongue. Serrano peppers increase testosterone levels by reducing the amount the kidneys flush out while capsaicin releases chemicals that increase your heart rate, mimic arousal and kickstart your libido. Let’s all reach for the hot sauce!

Get a Good Night’s Sleep

It’s all too easy in our busy society to allow sleep to fall by the wayside. Between working, playing, relaxing and chatting, there’s barely enough hours in the day. Still, rest is one of the most vital components of a healthy lifestyle. Not getting enough sleep is connected to several health issues that contribute to downstairs disappointment such as high blood pressure, diabetes and obesity.

Don’t Skip Your Morning Coffee

It’s a little-known fact that coffee consumption and healthy erections are linked. Drinking the black stuff is said to speed up the metabolism and get the heart rate going in a healthy way, contributing to blood flow and a healthy member. Caffeine also causes the arteries in your penis to relax, promoting blood flow to the nether regions. A study found that drinking two to three cups a day has a particularly positive effect on blokes who are carrying a few extra pounds.

Never Be Afraid to Manscape

You can’t underestimate the impact that mental health has on physical health, so making sure you feel confident about your package will help to keep him healthy. While you don’t need to go bald, trimming your bush on a regular basis can contribute to you feeling on top of your game. An added bonus is that your cock will stand out more and appear bigger if it’s not shrouded by a sea of pubes. The benefits of keeping him clean and smelling fresh hopefully go without saying.

Keeping your pecker in good health shouldn’t be a strain. All of the components required to lead a healthy lifestyle contribute to blood flow, sperm count and testosterone levels and help fight disease. Get into a mindset where looking after yourself is a priority, and the rest will follow.

For some reason, lots of men experience some squeamishness regarding prostate massage. Traditionally, the views of society forced men to enjoy these unadulterated pleasures in silence and therefore it was something that wasn’t talked about much. However, we are currently in the throes of a sexual liberation in that people feel a lot more comfortable talking about sex toys, buying sex toys and sharing their sex toy experiences with friends. As a result, people are more open about their use of prostate massagers. However, men are still reluctant to discuss the intricacies of the experience which means that people are prone to making mistakes when using them.

So, what are the most common mistakes made when using a prostate massager?

Not knowing where the prostate gland is.

A common mistake made before using a prostate massager is not knowing where the prostate glad is located. The prostate gland is something that is exclusive to the male sex and can be found at the front of the rectum. The walnut shaped gland is located between the penis and the bladder and creates the fluid that helps sperm to travel when you ejaculate.

Before using a prostate massager, it is important to know where the prostate is. This helps you to angle the massager properly so that it applies pressure in all the right places. If you were to try and find the prostate using fingers, it is located approximately two inches into the anus. Point your finger towards your belly button and stroke carefully until you find it. The prostate can also be stimulated by massaging the perineum. However, this is a less intense form of stimulation than direct massage.
Our tip*

It is easier to locate the prostate with your finger when you’re feeling turned on.

Failing to properly relax before and during use

Before using a prostate massager, it is important to spend some time getting properly relaxed. This helps to prepare your mind and body. This could be something as simple as enjoying a nice warm bath or listening to your favourite music.

Misunderstanding the type of prostate massager that you are using?

There are lots of different types of prostate massagers. Like everything, not every type of prostate massager will suit everyone. Stepping away from the ‘one type fits all’ mentality and conducting a little research can help you choose the best prostate massager for you. To make things a little easier, here are the different types of massager that are available.

Vibrating Prostate Massagers

Extremely popular, vibrating prostate massagers are usually crafted with pleasure in mind. For beginners, it is recommended that you start off smaller and increase in size as your experience grows. This type of massager can be C shaped to hit the prostate and perineum at the same time, or it can look like a traditional female vibrator, but with a slight curve.
We highly reckoned the Bathmate Prostate Vibe as a beginner’s prostate massager because it has a tapered tip for easy insertion, ten speeds of vibration to choose from and it provides powerful internal stimulation.

Remote Control Prostate Massagers

Perfect for couples, a remote-control prostate massager works the same way as a vibrating prostate massager but can be controlled by a partner so you experience an extra thrill. This type of vibrator is perfect for those experimenting with power play because your partner takes control of your orgasm.

Silicone prostate massagers

Silicone prostate massagers are really effective because they enable a slower and more controlled path to prostate massage. However, because this takes a level of skill, these massagers are better suited to those who have the time, patience and experience to practice with this product.

Stainless steel prostate massagers or glass prostate massagers

Steel or glass prostate massagers offer very little ‘give’ during use, so they offer a firm type of prostate massage which is better suited to those who have had some experience with prostate play. However, that’s not to say that a beginner can’t enjoy the pleasures that they offer. For first timers, use with a partner who knows how to use the product. Glass and steel also hold heat and cold temperatures very well, so they are great for temperature play.

Prostate massager with attached cock ring

Prostate massagers with a cock ring attached are the double whammy of prostate play because you experience the incredible effects of a full body orgasm and the intensity of a prolonged genital orgasm too. If you’re using with a partner, prepare to have your mind blown!

Getting into the best position for prostate massage

Depending on the type of massager your using, and your personal preference. The position that you adopt during prostate massage can affect the experience that you have. For beginners to prostate massage, there will be elements of trial and error because you need to experiment to work out what position suits you best. Some people prefer to lie of their back with their legs open, others enjoy crouching whilst some massagers work best if you sit and rock.

Not enough lubricant

If you don’t have plenty of lube close to hand, you will find prostate massage feels uncomfortable and less enjoyable. Also, because the rectum is not self-lubricating, there is a risk that you may harm the delicate tissues located within there. Before choosing a lubricant, check that it is compatible with your prostate massager and always use liberal amounts. It is much better to have too much than not enough. For prostate massage, we highly recommend the Bathmate Anal Lube.

Touching the Penis

As tempting as it is, touching your penis whilst using a prostate massager isn’t advised if you want to experience an authentic prostate orgasm. You may discover that there is some leakage from your penis, but you can always have a cheeky wank once you’ve finished, as a little treat for all your hard work.

Keeping things clean

After use, even if the prostate massager looks clean, it isn’t. It is important that your prostate massager is cleaned before and after use with a sex toy cleaner that is gentle but effective. We recommend the Bathmate Anal Sex Toy Cleaner because it kills all known germs and is kind to your sex toys. Between uses, keep it safe and dust free in a storage pouch.

However, some people still hide their use of testicle ticklers and clit caressers because they worry about what other people will think. This is sad really, because if there is a great couples sex toy on the market, wouldn’t it be great if we heard all about it? At Bathmate, we want to explore some of the common myths about couples who use sex toys and put our perspective on these views.

Sex toys are only for single people

According to experts, almost half of women own or have used a sex toy, that’s a lot of people! The same research conducted by these experts showed that those in relationships were more likely to use sex toys than those who are single. With the sex toy trend continuing to increase, it seems that adult toys are here to stay, so it’s only natural that couples will continue to experiment. Sex toys can also help to improve penetrative sex between couples with products like the Bathmate Power Ring helping male partners to stay erect longer whilst stimulating the clitoris during sexual intercourse too.

If you’re using sex toys, your partner isn’t satisfying you

Being open with your partner and exploring the things that you like in the bedroom can help to increase sexual satisfaction, rather than hindering it. This also extends to the sex toys that you use. With lots of couples using sex toys to enhance their sexual experiences, the products add a freshness and excitement that helps to keep sex fun and interesting. If you are struggling to feel satisfied in the bedroom, it is important to have the confidence to speak to your partner and tell them what you need. After all, if you aren’t clear about your sexual needs, how will they know?

Couples only use sex toys because the passion in the relationship has gone

It is true that sometimes people turn to sex toys because they want to spice things up in the bedroom, but that isn’t the only reason that couples use these products. Different sex toys offer different experiences and sensations, so you get a range of experiences that aren’t replicated by straightforward sex. For example, a vibrating prostate massager like the Bathmate Prostate Vibe delivers ten different vibration modes to massage and stimulate the prostate, whilst a vibrating butt plug pushes the wall of the vagina closer together so that sexual intercourse is more enjoyable for both the male and female partner.

Sex toys desensitise your genitals so sex will be less satisfying

Sex toys will not desensitise genitals, this is a complete myth. If you do experience numbness in the genitals it is important that you discuss this with your GP as it can be an indicator of a health condition or nerve damage. It doesn’t matter how many times you use your trusty old vibe; you will not wear out your sexual organs, biology doesn’t work that way.

You don’t need a man if you use a dildo

Vibrators are cheap dates, they don’t leave their dirty socks by the wash basket, they don’t fart, snore or burp and they don’t hog the remote…. But you don’t get love, companionship and excitement from a sex toy. Remember, sex toys are items that enhance your sexual relationship.

You may also use your sex toy alone during masturbation and that is also perfectly fine, but keep in mind that your sex toy is simply something to enhance your experience. Think of it as the sprinkles to your ice cream. The ice cream is great on its own, but with sprinkles it’s even better!

Men who use anal sex toys are secretly gay

Really…. I hate to have to justify this with an answer. But no, men who enjoy anal play are not secretly gay. Lots of men enjoy anal or prostate stimulation regardless of their sexual preferences. That’s because the prostate, or the P spot is located inside the rectum and helps to produce a powerful and intense climax for men. Lots of men enjoy this kind of play with men,
women or non-binary friends. It certainly doesn’t have any bearing on your sexuality and simply indicates a lack of understanding on those who repeat this myth.

Sex toys are just for heterosexual couples

Whilst lots of sex toys are designed with penis in vagina sex in mind, there are lots of great products out there for same sex couples too. Our anal training butt plugs are designed for all sexes and help to prepare the anus for anal sex. The Bathmate VIBE is also a sex toy that stimulates different sexes in different, but thrilling, ways. Similarly, Bathmate Hydro-pumps are ideal for same sex relationships, particularly if you’re hoping to increase the size of your penis or struggling to get an erection. Our Bathmate Lubes and douches also help to prepare the body for lots of different types of sex. Bathmate also cater for to the trans community too, with cock rings helping to maintain an erection after hormone treatment, and our vibrating bullets providing stimulation at all different stages of transition for both transmasculine and transfeminine people.

Buying sex toys as a couple is embarrassing

Rather than being embarrassing, buying sex toys together indicates the maturity to be open and clear about the things that you want in the bedroom. Sitting together and exploring the different products, talking about the different effects and debating whether you’ll like the outcome certainly isn’t embarrassing. After all, is there anything more exciting than knowing that you’re going to have a whale of a time trying out all your new sex toys?