With the most loved-up day of the year fast approaching, you may be wondering what to gift your other half. Valentine’s Day gift buying can be challenging to say the least. With millions of presents to choose from it can be hard to know where to start, especially if you’ve only been dating for a […]
With the most loved-up day of the year fast approaching, you may be wondering what to gift your other half. Valentine’s Day gift buying can be challenging to say the least. With millions of presents to choose from it can be hard to know where to start, especially if you’ve only been dating for a short while! Ideally, you want your gift to be meaningful, useful or sentimental – basically anything more than a standard box of chocolate and roses. One unique way to approach Valentine’s Day is to consider your partner’s love language.
The 5 love languages was published in the late ‘90s by renowned marriage counsellor Dr Gary Chapman with the idea that we all give and receive love in different ways – ultimately helping couples understand each other’s needs better. The love languages are:
- Words of affirmation – this is reportedly the most common love language in the UK and requires telling your partners how much you love and appreciate them. It’s not about going through the motions but rather saying the words.
- Quality time – this doesn’t mean spending time sitting on the sofa, watching Netflix and staring at your phones. Quality time is about sharing experiences together such as great meals, travel and adventures.
- Receiving gifts – everyone loves receiving a gift (even if they say otherwise!) and for someone who resonates with this love language giving a small memento or token that reminds you of them can go a long way.
- Acts of service – this love language is all about taking on tasks that your partner either doesn’t enjoy doing or doesn’t have time to do, whether it’s cooking dinner or picking someone up from the airport, your partner will appreciate the gesture more than declarations of love.
- Physical touch – people who have physical touch as their love language find that all forms of contact, from hugs and hand-holding to back massages and of course, sex, is the most important form of intimacy.
Bathmate’s Sex & Relationship Expert, Kerri Middleton, says think about how your partner gives and receives love when searching for the perfect Valentine’s Day gift.
“Once you know your partner’s dominant love language, you’ll be able to cater to their specific needs and desires and that way giving a Valentine’s Day present or performing an act of service will hold extra special meaning to them,” she says.
You can take the 5 love languages quiz to learn what both you and your partner’s love language is.
What Does Dr Google Say?
Over the last 12 months, more and more people have been searching for information about the 5 love languages. Last February in the UK, there was a 40% increase in searches related to ‘love languages gift ideas’ so this is definitely something you should consider when looking for the perfect Valentine’s Day gift.
But it’s not just during the most loved-up month of the year people are looking for information about the relationship theory. Over 40,000 people in the UK search ‘love language’ every month, while just over 18,000 are searching for ‘5 love languages’.
5 Gift Ideas for Every Love Language
So, once you’ve figured out your partner’s love language, you’ll have a great starting point for Valentine’s Day gifts! Here are some sensual and sexy ideas we’ve put together for every love language to help inspire you.
Words of affirmation:
Our research suggests this love language is the most common in the UK with 1,900 searches per month. It seems 4,400 of us curious lot are searching ‘cute things to say to your girlfriend’ and ‘cute things to say to your boyfriend’ every month, so let’s talk about gift ideas for this popular love language.
A good starting place is a long, thoughtful card to help bring you closer to one another. In the bedroom, try incorporating tantric sex or a toy that has several different speeds to leave your partner screaming for more.
It probably comes as no surprise that quality time is the second most common love language with 880 searches every month. Chances are – if you love your partner, you’ll appreciate spending time with them. There’s a high search trend around ‘how to be present in a relationship’ – so let us help answer that question.
First things first, turn off your phones and get rid of any other distractions to focus purely on your partner. You can plan to cook a romantic dinner together, make some cocktails, dance around the room or watch a movie together. All of these things will ignite their sexual spark and allow them to feel comfortable enough to initiate sex. Within that framework, we suggest a vibrator that can be used on both you and your partner. A shared intimate experience that’ll be the best time you’ve spent together in a while.
Acts of service:
Instead of telling your partner you love them, find ways of showing it. This love language receives 590 searches per month – with 720 of us wondering ‘how to show someone you love them’ and 390 people asking ‘how to prove you love someone’.
Before heading to the bedroom, make sure the house is clean, tidy and welcoming to help them feel more relaxed. Put a big focus on foreplay and pleasing your partner. For women, a toy can be incorporated for clitoral stimulation – for men, a fancy lubricant to help with foreplay and ease them into more passionate sex.
Around 170 people search for this love langague each month but more of us are wondering ‘how to express love’ and ‘why won’t my boyfriend have sex with me’.
To help with physical intimacy, build up ‘touch’ throughout the day. This can be hand holding, kissing or even a massage. In the bedroom, experiment with different positions or different rooms in the house to spice things up and help them feel loved and sexy. Massage oils are the perfect gift for this love language or for those who want to push the limits – bondage is a great way to get more intimate than ever before.
While this is the least popular love language, with around 110 searches, it’s certainly not one to be forgotten. It seems many of us are stuck for gift ideas with a huge 2,400 searches for ‘best gifts for girlfriend’ and 1,600 searches for ‘I love you gifts’. Not to worry – we’ve got you covered.
Think of something meaningful rather than just a bunch of roses. It could be something that reminds you of them or something that relates to an inside joke or a happy memory – they’ll very much appreciate the thought and effort you put into the gift. You could also buy them something to be used in the bedroom such as new intimate lingerie or a romantic trip away (something to look forward to!).
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