Men tend to have a lot of fears about the ever important first date, especially since it is a special meeting that affects the future of the entire relationship and could lead on to that all important second date. First impressions matter, lads.
The invention of online dating and social media has started the era of being unable or even afraid to meet people in real life. That is why a lot of people find it hard to date properly and have various anxieties surrounding dating. On the internet you can recreate yourself, add a lot of positive and interesting characteristics that make you look and appear better for the opposite sex. In real life it is very easy for these illusions to unravel right before your eyes, although meeting someone in the real world may seem scary – ultimately, in the long run its a much better way to find a prospective partner.
As your parents will tell you – they dated in a different way – went to the local disco, talked for months before there was even a possibility of a first date, sent letters, danced the dance. Our mothers were feminine and softly spoken and the men knew how to behave properly. Nowadays it seems everything is different and the original old school etiquette has been long forgotten. Trends have changed from years ago and dating styles and behaviour have also changed dramatically. With this in mind we thought we would do our best to help you out. So, gentlemen here are some first date tips and etiquette pointers that will open up the door to the possibilty of a second date.
1. SIMPLE BUT TRUE
How should you act on the first date? The answer is: Be yourself. Be genuine. Be true to your core values and beliefs. Have your own opinion, do not be afraid of a little spicy disagreement – Most women find a man who stands up for his own beliefs as more attractive. If you follow these simple rules of engagement, you will find the right woman who will appreciate you for the person you truly are. Women look for a man who is mature, confident, gallant and masculine.
First, plan a date – Offer to meet somewhere neutral, it’s just convenient and she`ll feel safer and at ease, If you met online asking to pick someone up from there house on the first meeting is a sure fire way to set alarm bells off! You also should wear your favourite clothes. Your outfit should show yourself but remember to dress for the occasion – maybe your favourite shirt. Women love when a guy has a plan for the evening and they do not have to make decisions. Women like to rule in the house but when it comes to dating they like it when everything is scheduled in advance so they can enjoy every moment.
3. GIFTS AND COMPLIMENTS
Give her flowers. Women love flowers so obviously this is not a new concept but old is gold! Tell her that she looks incredible and give her some nice compliments during the date. Try to say something she has never heard before and not something like “you have beautiful eyes”. Maybe compliment her sense of humour or say that she is very intelligent. Trust us, it is better than complimenting her based on just her appearance alone.
4. BE A GOOD LISTENER
The first date is the time to make a good first impression, talk about yourself but always listen to the other person. Also, let her lead the conversation. Exchange your insights and learn lessons – is this the woman for you? If so, remember what he says – women often like to check whether their man is listening to them. Look into her eyes and observe her body language. It is very important!
There are some topics that you simply cannot talk about fellas! It may seem obvious but do not bring up your ex-girlfriend, physical contact, being cheap, being too confident, asking how much she earns or even macho stuff like how much alcohol you are able to drink. Borrrring! Women like men who behave like adults and are mature. Real women do not care about these kind of things and appreciate a true gentleman.
If you want to be a good listener please do not have your phone in a hand whole evening. As I mentioned above, we live in the 21st century and use our phones all day long. Our First date advice is to not use your phone (too much!) and show her that you care about and listen to her.
7. NO STRESS
Try not to be too stressed or anxious, we know it’s pretty daunting but you are just a nice guy who wants to have a successful first date. Think about yourself as a winner not a loser. When people are stressed they can behave in a very strange way – like nervous laughter and saying things they regret. The point is that you need to try your best not to overthink things – go with the flow!
That was our hot take on first date etiquette. Who knows where it will lead you. Hopefully you find these tips of use and make it to the second date – do us a favour – If you make it that far come back and tell us! We love a good old happy ending. Good luck gentlemen and remember, just be yourself.