Once something of a taboo even in the sexually-liberal 90s, the act of rimming – also known as ass-eating, analingus, or tossing the salad – is becoming increasingly normalized – in part due to certain rap songs, as well as pornography. And that’s a good thing! While it might not be everybody’s cup of tea, rimming can be an incredibly intimate exchange, so don’t knock it till you’ve tried it.
That being said, if you plan to “eat the booty like groceries”, there are some things you should be aware of. So if you’re curious about this intimate act but don’t know where to start, let’s dive into everything you need to know about analingus.
What is Rimming?
Rimming, also called a rim job, is basically oral sex with the anus. You can use your mouth, lips, and tongue to pleasure the external anal area, or in some cases use your tongue to penetrate the anus itself. This can be done as a part of foreplay, or simply on its own.
Does Rimming Feel Good?
While you might not consider the anus to be your favorite erogenous zone on the menu, it’s actually packed with nerve endings, making it highly sensitive for many people. And when stimulated with the tongue, you can end up experiencing a mixture of unique sensations that differ from other forms of sexual stimulation.
Note: It’s also important to point out that rimming is not exclusive to any particular sexual orientation or gender identity – anyone can enjoy giving or receiving a rim job, regardless of their sexuality!
Is Rimming Safe?
Like any sexual activity, rimming comes with potential risks. However, if you simply take proper precautions, tossing the salad shouldn’t cause any problems:
Hygiene is Key
We’re just going to say it: cleanliness is absolutely key when it comes to rimming. After all, the anus is a waste pipe, and can end up transferring dangerous bacteria if the area hasn’t been thoroughly cleaned. Depending on your preferences, some people prefer to “douche” before any fun time involving the butt – this is where you squirt water into the anus (using a specialized tool, of course) to clean the rectum and wash away any lingering poop. Sorry, but you did ask!
In some cases, a simple shower (paying extra attention to the butt area) is all you need – but you can take a look at our how to get yourself ready for anal sex guide for more information if you’re not sure.
Dental Dams
A bit like an oral sex condom, the person performing the rim job can also use a dental dam (a thin, flexible piece of latex) as a barrier between the mouth and anus, which – while probably slightly weird in terms of sensation – can significantly reduce the risk of transmitting infections.
Regular STI Testing
If you’re with a new partner, it’s not unfair to make sure they’re up-to-date on their STI tests. Some STIs like syphilis and herpes can be transmitted through rimming, and a quick Google image search will convince you that it’s worth the awkward conversation.
Avoid if Sick
Generally, if either you or your partner has any mouth sores, cuts, or infections, it’s best to avoid rimming until fully healed – you can end up worsening an infection if the wound comes into contact with bacteria from the anus.
How to Perform a Rim Job
Now that we’ve covered the basics and safety, let’s talk about technique. Remember, there’s no one “right” way to rim – it’s all about what feels good for you and your partner.
Start Slow
Begin with gentle kisses and licks around the anal area. This helps build anticipation and allows the receiver to get comfortable.
Experiment with Techniques
Try different movements with your tongue – circular motions, up and down strokes, or rapid flicks – remember to ask your partner what feels best and adapt as you go.
Use Your Hands
You can also try gently massaging the inner thighs, genitals, or buttocks to enhance the experience.
Don’t Forget Aftercare
After rimming, it’s important to practice good oral hygiene. We’d recommend that you brush your teeth with a disposable toothbrush and rinse your mouth with an antibacterial mouthwash immediately after.
Myths and Misconceptions
So we’ve pretty much covered everything, but before we finish, let’s quickly go over some common misconceptions about rimming:
Myth 1: Rimming is Dirty
While the anus is associated with bowel movements, proper hygiene makes rimming no “dirtier” than many other sexual activities.
Myth 2: Only Gay Men Enjoy Rimming
This is false! People of all genders and sexual orientations can enjoy rimming. Remember Charlotte from Sex and the City? She loved giving Trey a rim job. Sexual preferences have nothing to do with your sexual orientation, so don’t be held back by outdated viewpoints.
Myth 3: Rimming Always Leads to Anal Sex
Rimming can be a standalone activity or part of foreplay, and there’s absolutely no reason it has to lead to anal penetration. That being said, it can be a great introduction to those experimenting with anal fun, and great foreplay for anal sex as it relaxes the anal sphincter (when done correctly, of course).
Final Thoughts
So, if you’re looking to add a new dimension to your sex life, rimming might be worth a try. Just make sure you’ve got some mouthwash on hand!
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