For the average straight man looking to meet a partner on the web, online dating tips can make the difference between eating a TV dinner on Friday night, or dancing the night away with the girl of your dreams in a hot nightclub. It doesn’t matter if you’re swiping on Tinder, chatting on eHarmony, seeking […]
At Bathmate, we have scoured the web and worked with some of the leading online relationship experts to get the low down on the ins and outs of online dating.
We’ve put together some of the best online dating tips to ensure that you have the best chance of pulling the girl of your dreams and meeting a match that lasts.
Re-evaluate your profile picture
Your profile picture is the one thing that you want to stand out on your dating profile and for all the right reasons. Very few women want to see a man posing topless with his biceps out, and no one wants to see you in the mirror of the gym taking pictures with your phone.
What will really help you to stand out is a profile picture that acts as a conversation starter too. It could a be a picture of you doing something interesting, or at an unusual destination. You may have had a great night out with friends and want to use a picture of you having fun. Your profile picture needs to create intrigue if you want to pique their interest.
Rewrite your profile
I am a nice person, I have a good sense of humour, I like to have fun…. There is nothing here that actually says, ‘I am interesting, funny and nice’. You will find that lots of people will also have these cliché statements as a staple of their online profile, but little information to demonstrate this fact.
By using anecdotes and giving examples, you give a much clearer example of your personality and have much better chance of standing out. For example, instead of saying that you’re a
nice person. Demonstrate this by talking about some of the nice things that you do. It could be something as simple as enjoying taking your niece to the cinema at weekends or volunteering for a cause or charity event. If you want to be humorous, tell a funny story about yourself!
Be more personal when you greet a potential date for the first time
Instead of ‘Hi, nice pic’ when you greet a potential online date for the first time. Take a little time to think about what you are going to say. Look at their online profile and ask them to elaborate on something that they have mentioned. It shows that you have a genuine interest in what they want to say.
Be clear about what you’re looking for
Being clear about what you’re looking for can save a lot of time and trouble for you and your potential match. If you want a long term relationship, say so. If you’re seeking a hook up, tell her. If you prefer a casual date, be clear about it. It isn’t fair to string someone along.
Speak as you would in real life
‘Hey BBZ, HowZ u?’
No… just, no. Poor grammar, text talk and bad spellings are a major turn off, as are lewd comments and comments about physical appearance. Women receive those ‘u r hot’ messages all the time. Very few will get the reaction that you want. If you want to stand out, ask them about themselves and use the information that they use to keep the conversation flowing naturally.
People love to talk about themselves, it’s a fact! If you’ve met someone and you’re enjoying the conversation, a great way to keep things flowing organically is to end your messages with a question. Keep it light and interesting, or it can be something fun and quirky. It helps to keep a list of interesting questions close to hand, so you don’t feel pressured into thinking on the spot.
Don’t message excessively, follow her lead
There is a fine balance between enjoying a good conversation, to someone messaging too excessively. This is really hard to gauge because it often depends on the personality of the person that you’re speaking to. My advice would be to follow her lead. If you’re having a great conversation, that’s fine, let the conversation run it’s natural course.
But if you message the next day and don’t get an answer, try not to bombard your potential date with messages. Wait for an answer, she could be working or busy. Similarly, if you are chatting to someone and you must leave the conversation, don’t leave them hanging. Explain that you’ve enjoyed the chat, but you need to go. It’s just good manners after all. If you want to speak to them again, ask them if they are up for another chat sometime.
If you like the girl, ask her out
Don’t leave things too long. Girls want a date, not a pen pal. If you like her, broach the subject of meeting for a cup of coffee. That way, you’ll be able to see whether you have chemistry. As nice as it is to chat online and get to know each other that way, taking the plunge and meeting face to face is the only real way that you’ll be able to see if this is something that you’d like to continue.
Don’t play games
Unfortunately, online dating is rife with time wasters and game players, it’s the nature of the beast. However, always be a gentleman by being straight with your potential date. If you aren’t interested in dating that person, let them know in the nicest way possible and move on. If you are talking to several people and your potential date asks, be straight about it. Don’t blow hot and cold with messages and certainly don’t ‘ghost’ someone who isn’t quite your cup of tea. Rejection is hard enough, but rejection without any explanation can really damage someone’s self-esteem.
Ditch the unsolicited dick pics
Never, ever send an unsolicited dick pic. If someone wants to see your genitals, they will let you know.